How To Live a Miserable Life, A Reflection -BB

For His anger is but for a moment, His favor is for a lifetime. Weeping may endure for a night, But a shout of joy comes in the morning. Psalm 30:5

Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, for many false prophets have gone out into the world. 1John 4:1

Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, James 1:2

May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope. Romans 15:23

Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, Rejoice. Philippians 4:4

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, Galatians 5:22

God died so we no longer have to live to and for ourselves, the greatest thing god has set me free from is me.  Self centered people are self deceived; they think the more they do for themselves and the more everyone else does for them the happier they are, but the exact opposite is true. How wonderful the world would be, how happy we each would be if we consciencly lived per God’s true will for us and not be selfish. Married people, do not compare yourselves to movies and television dramas, these are unrealistic situations written that are hopeless lies. Real relationships can endure through trials of fire and get stronger. My husband and I are living every parents nightmare right now, 11 weeks after the death of his oldest son. This is the hardest thing anyone should have to endure. I have had to carry us both and be strong no matter what. Would I like to say “hey, what about me?” that would be selfish and defeating the vow I took for better or worse. Would my husband like to say “OK it has been a few months, I feel better now.” Or “well, I am grieving so I am exempt in all my responsibilities and actions.” Again, that is just plain dumb. His heart broke, but despite this he understands he must grieve and also be strong for our granddaughter and for his other children. My husband has to pay the bills. We have roles and responsibilities we each carry out, that is real life. My daughter miscarried recently, for her this was just as devastating as the loss of my husband’s son. I am there for her as well and understand the grief she is gong through and need to aid and respect that. In her eyes there is no difference, and I am her mother, I have also lost children and grieve with her; while helping her get through. Her husband is also her tower of strength. Yet they have two children and they each have responsibilities to each other, their kids, and their lives. There is no time for carrying on, martyrdom, catastrophizing events, shirking duties, and making things worse than they may be or seem to be. I love my husband and will stand beside him no matter what. It is not always easy or fun, but I am honored to have that responsibility. He has stated the same about his honor to be my tower of strength in all that is thrown at us: good or bad.

Think of others and do for others. Do not expect a return, inspect what you expect. Look outside yourself and you will have no time to feel sorry for yourself or realize your short comings or compare your life to others who seem to be doing better. Do your best at your job and I guarantee it will become a better place to work. Stop living in the past, you cannot change it no matter how much you analyze it, you only keep it raw. Take care of your body, so you feel good and can focus better and get more accomplished. Focus on joyful things.

The best way to live in joy is to start and end each day for God. Read one Bible verse each morning before getting out of bed, pray in the shower and while brushing your teeth. Say thanks before each meal and snack. Pray before going to sleep and read a quick Bible verse. Tithe 10% or more, I guarantee a great return.

Below is a list I compiled of a few different sources of how to guarantee to have a miserable life. If you see yourself is a few things, you are normal and can pray for God to help change your life for the better. If there are many things you recognize about yourself, God is there just for you as well. Pray, keep praying, read and study what the Bible says. Work at changing your behaviors. God Bless You all.

Dear God, you made us each unique and wonderful. You created a world filled with everything we need to live in joy and peace. Help us to put petty and selfish actions aside and live in the joy you desire for us. Help us to walk your path for us and defeat misery. Amen!!

Think about yourself constantly

Use I as often as possible

Mirror self continually by opinion of others

Listen greedily what others say about me, and if its’ not what I want to hear, get angry

Expect to be appreciated by everyone

Be suspicious

Be jealous and envious

Be sensitive and easily offended

Never forgive a criticism

Trust nobody but yourself

Refuse to see other people’s point of view.

Catastrophize.

Insist on consideration and respect at all times

Demand agreement with your own views on everything

Sulk and feel sorry for yourself if people are not grateful to you for what you do for them

Never forget how much you have done for others, think about it at all times

Always remember what they fail to do for you

Shirk your duty

Seek at all times to entertain yourself

Do as little as you possibly can for other people

Always whine and complain.

Be a martyr.

Judge others.

Keep up to date on celebrity culture.

Watch all the romance movies and compare them to your relationship

Keep updated on local news.

Eat junk food, drink lots of beer and never exercise.

Watch more TV.

Waste time e-mailing people to complain about stuff that’s nothing to do with you. 

Play the lottery.

Drift into your job.

Understand you’re worthless without a degree.

Don’t accept compliments.

Always complain. 

Deliberately avoid problems.

Compare yourself to others.

Worry about things and events that haven’t happen yet.

Burden yourself with problems.

Do things that you don’t like.

 Try to change people around.

Try to please everyone.

Get attached to goals/things/people/etc. 

Brownson, Tim. 14 Great Ways To Be Miserable.  http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/12-great-ways-to-be-miserable/

Meyer, Joyce. How to be miserable. http://www.joycemeyer.org/BroadcastHome.aspx?video=Self-Centered_-_Part_1

Mann, Adam. 10 Sure Ways To Be Miserable. http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/10-sure-ways-miserable/#WcmWSJYeqH5UcOEi.99

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